How can you control your volcanic temper?
Would you say that you operate on a short or long fuse? Perhaps your healthy mind is in a constant state of serenity, and anger rarely rears its ugly head in your world, if at all.
Though you may not be a person that appears to act in a permanent bubble of anger, there is a chance that you may still be prone to huge rages as your temper explodes. That doesn’t mean that you’re necessarily an angry person – it just means that your fuse can be shorter on some days than it can others. That’s perfectly natural – sometimes, we simply get out of bed on the wrong side.
Losing your temper can trigger a whole array of different emotions – both in you and others around you. You may frighten those that are in your immediate vicinity, especially if you are prone to throwing, punching or kicking objects, even if they are inanimate. Once your rage has subsided, you might perhaps feel embarrassed at your perceived childish, irrational behaviour. So how can you put a leash on yourself should the red mist begin to fall?
According to Mayo Clinic, holding your tongue is of paramount importance when you’re angry. That’s because the blind rage of a temper tantrum can cause you to say things that you don’t mean and will later regret. Distance yourself from the situation, take a few deep breaths, and gather your thoughts.
What’s the solution?
Do you find yourself getting angry about the same things, over and over again? If so, try not to focus on why you’re getting angry but what the problem is. If you can do this during a moment of calm, it’s possible to reduce the chances of you losing your temper over it again. Additionally, try to remember that an anger attack solves nothing – and can often make things worse.
Psychology Today suggests that when anger is handled in an unhealthy way, it can mentally stop you from getting what you, and those closest to you really want in life, and can drive a wedge between partners. If your anger is a very real problem, it’s worth seeking professional help – a holistic approach can often work wonders.